A year of Overwhelm!!

As we stepped in the new year, keeping good memories with us, leaving behind the past, with some new resolution and many hopes, it is also a good practice to reflect on what we achieved or learned in the past year. This blog may have all the things you know, but I will try to remind those with my experiences.

For me, as the title suggests it was not a very good year.

Nevertheless, focusing on the positives, I have learned some valuable lessons that I will try to remember as long as I can. As we all know, we have witnessed some of the most horrific scenarios while the world was dealing with the pandemic. But didn’t it make us strong, more patient, more aware, and more ready to fight battles like these?

I lost so many persons, some due to covid-19, some due to distance, some I still figuring out why!

But as we read every now and then, Learn to let go. And my friend, this is one of the hardest things to achieve. But, the results are just astonishing.

This means you are not allowing anybody to take control of your life. It’s just yours. You are happy with yourself, you will never be alone. You will be always be having you and what’s better than having a company every time.

But, Let me tell you, this isn’t easy. It requires continuous practice and eventually one will be able to start feeling a strong connection with him/herself. And, to know how this can be achieved, there is no correct answer to this. Every person has their own beliefs and methods.

Personally, I still haven’t achieved the level of self-love I have aimed for.

But, you can follow these steps to start with, and gradually you will figure out your own ways.

• Start meditating, even if for short time. Let’s say, 5 minutes to begin with. No wonder, it will be a bit difficult in the starting and you will be distracted. Practice makes a person perfect.
• Try journaling. Write your own thoughts, whatever it is. You will notice something very unusual, the very first day. Sometimes, you will be scared of writing those. But let me tell you, these are your own thoughts and you need not publish or share them even with your closest of people.
• Try doing at least one thing you just love doing. It could be anything, as easy as you want, as stupid as it can be. Not to worry. As I said previously, it need not be shared. I won’t say follow your passion and do the things only you love. It takes time to figure those out plus the scenarios which we are dealing with, will also not favor.
• Track your progress. This is really important and equally the most difficult bit. It will boost your confidence, trust me on this.

There are much more things you will come to know in this journey and change accordingly, what best suits you.

Professionally, 2021 was an okay year. Nothing marvelous I have achieved. Since it was my first year in corporate and the pandemic affected me, I have done well enough to get myself satisfied. I am able to deliver the results.

I am a software engineer by profession, and this year I have planned to learn some new skills and upgrade those which I already have. I hope I can fulfill those.

All I have experienced this year can be summarised as Life will happen. Sometimes, it will have a bad phase and, sometimes it will be having good ones. Cherish those good ones and when the bad one comes, use those memories to keep yourself up. That’s the thing.

Always remember, nothing lasts forever. The bad phase as well as the good ones. The difference is that we are so indulged in making memories when everything, that we expect is happening, we hadn’t kept the track of the time and that is what we should exactly do.

The mistake in my opinion is when we are keeping the track of our bad phase. I had made this mistake and it will lead us to nothing but misery.

This doesn’t mean hiding your emotions. It is perfectly fine to cry out loud, have tears when something bad happens, ask for help from the people. It should be done more often than not and that is why we make friends to share every tear and joy, isn’t it? Sometimes, they won’t be able to understand and this might hurt you and them as well. But these uncomfortable things got two people closer. In fact, in my personal view, sharing your emotion is the strongest thing one can do.

Life is short, Live a little. Accept your mistakes. Learn from them. Be kind to people. Love as much as you can.

As Albus Dumbledore said,

“Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love.”

Have a very very Happy New Year!!